All Saints Episcopal Church in Chicago

Me, Too

Trinity Sunday • June 11, 2017
Genesis 1:1-2:4a (“The Creation” by James Weldon Johnson) • Psalm 8

“You think your pain and your heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world, but then you read,” said James Baldwin in 1963. “It was books,” he said, “ that taught me that the things that tormented me most were the very things that connected me with all the people who were alive or who had ever been alive.”

The contemporary author Cheryl Strayed quotes Baldwin as she goes on to suggest that the “grand mission” of literature is “to tell the complicated truths about what it means to be human, but the most powerful proof,” she says, “that any writer has achieved that lofty goal is in the humble phrase: me, too.”

“Me, too: I have suffered. Me, too: I have loved. Me, too: I have [felt] joy. Me, too: I know what it is to forgive and struggle and…lose and triumph. Me, too: I am just like you, even though we are entirely different.”1

It seems that our God is a God of me, too. “I’m lonely!” God says. “I’ll make me a world.”2 If only I could just make a world whenever I’m lonely. But later God looks upon all he had made—his sun, her moon, his little stars, all her living things—and God says, “I’m lonely still.”

Could it be that at the heart of God is loneliness? A longing to be with? To know and to be known, to love and be loved? That at the heart of God is desire, for us?

Who are we that God would be mindful of us?3 And yet here we are. As children of God, made in God’s image, we are no strangers to desire; it is in us just as it is in God. Desire is in our marrow, in our souls, at the center of our lives, it drives us; we are “congenitally dis-eased…forever restless, dissatisfied, frustrated, and aching.”4

Prayer, says theologian Sarah Coakley, is a crucible for our desires.5 Prayer is to spend time before God to sort out which desires are good for us, and which, not so much; which desires illuminate the next right step forward, and which would actually have us retreat backward. The Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we ought, but that very Spirit intercedes with sighs too deep for words. And God, who searches the heart, knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for us according to the will of God.6 Prayer, says Coakley, like the Trinity is “one experience of God, but God as simultaneously (i) doing the praying in me, (ii) receiving that prayer, and (iii) in that exchange” creating me to be more like Christ”: one God, searching our hearts and longing for our response, pointing us toward our Creator, and changing us, always creating us, to be who we are7—because God wants us, and without that desire, all of our own prayer and striving is fruitless.8

Coakley admits that this happens over a good long time, sometimes joyfully and sometimes really painfully, and always with the help of others,9 especially those confidantes who hear you, who point out your truths before you might even know them, who hold you and love you in all of your glories and imperfections10—and as such, are precious clues to God’s patient love for us, God’s desire, burning since before the world began, to delight in us and with us.

Cheryl Strayed is talking about writing, but I think she just as easily is talking about praying: that act that begins usually in solitude, usually in private, usually somewhat silent, and that slowly and surely changes us and those we love, and the world. To write—and to pray—is to illumine our darkest corners with language, to tell truth after truth that at first seemed impossible to bear. To let our desires meet God’s desire for us is, in part, to excavate the things we’ve buried most deeply, of which we’re most afraid. To be a Christian is to tell God and one another those stories of when we got lost, and those stories of how we found our way back—together. Me, too. Me, too. Me, too.11

1 “The Power of ‘Me Too’”, May 16, 2017,

2 “The Creation” from God’s Trombones, James Weldon Johnson, 1927, This was read in place of the Genesis at two of the three services.

3 Psalm 8:5

4 Ronald Rolheiser, The Holy Longing: The Search for a Christian Spirituality, p. 3

5 “Prayer as Crucible”, The Christian Century, March 2011,

6 Romans 8:26-27

7 Sarah Coakley, “Living into the Mystery of the Holy Trinity: Trinity, Prayer, and Sexuality”, Anglican Theological Review, Vol. 8, No. 2, Spring 1998, p. 230

8 Coakley, “Crucible”, p. 37

9 “Crucible”, p. 38

10 Courtney E. Martin, “The Gifts We Give, The Gifts We Are”, June 8, 2017,

11 This paragraph heavily quoted from / adapted from / in conversation with / a remix of Cheryl Strayed, “The Power of ‘Me Too’”

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Weekly Message for January 14

Weekly Message for January 14

Dear Friends,    

I hope you can join Susan and me for dinner this Saturday, January 13, at our home (4550 N. Hermitage Ave) from 6 to 9pm. We’ll have awesome food, created by Joe and David Wernette-Harden, lots of wonderful beverages, and free childcare if that will be helpful! This annual January dinner is a great time to hear about the vestry’s plans for the upcoming year, meet new people, and have a tasty dinner at my home. Please do come!
Sunday, January 28th we’ll have our Annual Meeting at 10:00 am. At the meeting we’ll have brunch (again lots of beverages) and our annual slide show. We’ll elect vestry members and diocesan representatives, review our budget for 2018, and honor several wonderful volunteers. On that Sunday, we’ll only have an 8:00 and 9:00 worship service. There will be NO 11:00 service.  
Emily is preaching this Sunday, I’ll be celebrating and our choir and Colin will be creating some great music. Stay warm, hold your loved ones near, and reach out to everyone in need.
All my best,
Please let me know if you are interested in serving on our vestry (governing council) or being a representative of this congregation at or Diocesan Convention in November.
Bags for RCS

Bags for RCS

We're running low on paper and reusable bags for our Tuesday night pantry. Please bring us your extras! 
We will be taking donations on Tuesday evenings, M-F 9am-4pm, and on Sundays during church services. Look for the bins by the doors. Thanks for your help!

Evening Prayer at The Breakers

Evening Prayer at The Breakers

 Sundays at 2pm

breakersbibleWe are very excited to announce that every Sunday at 2:00 pm, All Saints' offers something new at the Breakers - An Evening Prayer Service! Our first event was Sunday, December 4th, and went marvelously well - we had 13 attendees! Folks are very pleased that there's a Protestant service being offered in addition to the current choices (which are Catholic and Moody Bible.) The Prayer Service itself is printed in large print and in bulletin style with scripture taken each week from the Common Lectionary.

The weekly service starts at 2:00 pm, upstairs on the second floor Meditation Room, and lasts about 15 minutes. Please contact Paul Mallatt if you have questions, or comments at 773-860-4649. When you can, stop by the Breakers (5333 N Sheridan Rd) where the parking is free (for 2 hours), the coffee is hot, and the folks are friendly!


Community Kitchen Volunteers Needed

Community Kitchen Volunteers Needed

Tuesdays 6:15-8:00pm 

RCS is looking for help serving and cleaning up after dinner on Tuesdays from 6:15-8:00pm.

If you're able to volunteer, contact Emily or Operations Manager Parker Callahan, or call 773-769-0282.

New Opportunity: Hospitality Ministry

New Opportunity: Hospitality Ministry

helloDo you feel called to create an open, welcoming, hospitable environment at All Saints? Do you like meeting and connecting with people? Join the new Hospitality Ministry! Members of the Hospitality Ministry will help the clergy and vestry create a welcoming culture by greeting new members, engaging new faces at coffee hour, and helping connect new members of All Saints with our various programs.

Interested? Contact Diane Doran or Michelle Mayes. Include "Hospitality Ministry" in the subject line.

Join Our Member Directory!

Join Our Member Directory!

Our new Associate Rector, Emily Williams Guffey, is enjoying getting to know everyone in our congregation. Help her put names and faces together by adding yourself to our online directory!

If you are a member of All Saints' and haven't already registered for the directory, please contact our resident web guru Jim Crandall at and he will send a user name, password, and instructions.

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Love on a Plate

Join the All Saints' Care Ministry! 

casseroleThe Care Ministry at All Saints' is a quiet one, simply providing meals after a new baby arrives, after surgery, during an illness. Because when life gets complicated, dinner is often the last thing on our minds--but sometimes a meal and visit from a friend is exactly what we need!

If you can provide a meal, give someone a ride, or run an errand once in awhile, please email You'll be contacted when a need arises and you can sign up to help at your convenience.


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