All Saints Episcopal Church in Chicago


I’m in Love with the Shape of You

Song of Songs
July 9, 2017
Bonnie A. Perry

I propose to show that in the Song of Songs there is an incarnational grounding in our physicality, so that those hearing this sermon will read these words both for ways to enrich our relationship with the one we love and with the Holy of Holies.

True Confessions. My most favorite song these days, besides the Canticle of the Turning, is Ed Sheerhan’s, Shape of You.

I’m in love with the shape of you
We push and pull like a magnet do

Though my heart is falling too
I’m in love with your body
Last night you were in my room
Now my bedsheets smell like you.
I’m in love with your Body
I’m in love with your body.
Every day discovering something brand new
I’m in love with the shape of you

Listen, its’ my lover:
Here he comes now,
Leaping upon the mountains
Bounding over the hills.

My lover is like a gazelle
Or a young stag.
Here he stands now
Outside our wall,
Peering through the windows
Peeking through the lattice

My lover spoke and said to me,
Rise up my dearest,
my fairest and go.
Here the winter is past:
The rains have come and gone.
Blossoms have appeared in the land,
The season of singing has arrived.

A few verses later:

I belong to my lover
And he belongs to me…

Upon my bed, night after night,
I look for the one whom I love
With all my heart

I belong to my lover and he belongs to me
Song of Songs

Well then….its not that often I can conflate Holy Scripture with an erotic pop song.

The Song of Songs, the Song of Solomon, the Canticle of Canticles, has many names and only 8 short chapters, but there it is The Song of Songs nestled in our scripture between the wisdom of Ecclesiastes and the prophecy of Isaiah.

A book in the Hebrew Bible, the Old Testament which is, as theologian Stephanie Paulsell says, “Unusual among biblical books for what is includes and what it leaves out. What it includes is erotic poetry that leaves no body part uncelebrated, no fragrance or taste of the beloved undescribed. What it leaves out is any reference whatsoever to God.” (Lamentations and the Song of Songs: A Theological Commentary on the Bible p 172.)

Despite lacking an overt divine reference this book made it into the Hebrew and Christian Canon and was the most commented and preached upon piece of scripture in Medieval Christianity. (E. Ann Mattter, The voice of my Beloved: The of Songs in Western Medieval Christianity p 6.)

Bernard of Clairaux, the 12th century Cistercian writer, managed to pen 86 sermons on the Song of Songs. This fascination was not just limited to celibate Christian monks, medieval Rabbi Ezra ben Solomon taught that the Song of Songs belonged to God and God sang it every day.

Sixteenth century, mystic and carmalite, Teresa of Avila, also joined the Song of Songs party, she like Bernard, saw and heard in the verses a yearning that echoed her own search and longing for God. “Reading the Song is a consolation, because a soul in love with God experiences the kinds of ‘swoons, deaths, afflictions, delights, and joys that one reads of in the Song of Songs.” (p 175 Paulsell).

Here’s the interesting piece for those of us who have been shaped in a somewhat puritanical view of religion and spirituality, Teresa of Avila, Bernard of Clairvaux, Rabbi Ezra, do not reject the erotic quality of scripture, instead as Paulsell says, “they recognize the erotic quality of life with God.”( P 175)

Any of us who has ever had a moment of spiritual clarity, a time of some type of mystical transcendence, long for it, much as we may long for the feeling of that first kiss of a relationship that matters, the blush and rush, the physicality of a connection that enables us to move beyond ourselves. The medieval mystics understood that incarnational connection is not merely a spiritual event.

Biblical theologian, Dianne Bergant goes a step farther by saying, “God is not found beyond human endeavor but at the very heart of it. (Song of Songs: The love Poetry of Scripture p 21). And then making the literal connection between mystical moments and our human relationships she says, “human love is a value in and of itself and a sign or symbol of divine love and that we love God precisely in the act of loving others.”

Any of us who has ventured into the world of relationships knows that though those early moments may overwhelm us with a sense of connectivity, inevitably there is the separating. The push and pull of coming together (like magnets do) and moving apart, our seeming inability to read the other person, to meet their needs, understand their desires, or our own inability to set our longings and wants aside to be there completely for that other person.

Or the vulnerable hurt of expressing our needs and longings and having the one to whom we have turned, miss our signals, misunderstand our words, or fail once again to read our minds. So there are those scars and scabs of not connecting.

I was sleeping

A sound! My love is knocking:
Open for me, my dove my perfect one.

The woman replies,
I’ve taken off my tunic
Why should I put it on again?
I have bathed my feet, why should I get them dirty?

Time goes by…

I went and opened for my love,
But my love had turned, gone away.

I nearly died when he turned away.
I looked for him
I called out to him but he didn’t answer me.

Song of Songs

Yet what the Song of Songs shows us is the ebb and flow of all relationships. The longing for and missing of the other and the willingness to seek out the beloved.

I looked for the one I loved whom I loved with all my heart.
I looked for him but could not find him.
I will rise now and
go through the city,
through the streets and the squares,
I will look for the one I love with all my heart.” (vv 3:1-2)

Even in scripture, connections are missed, lovers are lost.

But in scripture, these missed opportunities are not the final word.

Set me as a seal over your heart,
As a seal upon your arm,
For love is as strong as death,
Passionate love is unrelenting as the grave
Rushing waters can’t quench love rivers cannot wash it away.

In this poetry of love, we see the longing, hope, coming together, pulling apart, and coming together again—those connections we long for with each other and with our God.

There’s not much more you could hope for on a beautiful summers morning.

Copyright Bonnie A. Perry July 2017


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Dear Friends,    

I hope you can join Susan and me for dinner this Saturday, January 13, at our home (4550 N. Hermitage Ave) from 6 to 9pm. We’ll have awesome food, created by Joe and David Wernette-Harden, lots of wonderful beverages, and free childcare if that will be helpful! This annual January dinner is a great time to hear about the vestry’s plans for the upcoming year, meet new people, and have a tasty dinner at my home. Please do come!
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Bonnie on Huffington Post

Occasionally Bonnie's sermons are published on the Huffington Post. Here are some links.

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