All Saints Episcopal Church in Chicago

Relationships that Matter

Luke 20
November 10, 2013
Bonnie A. Perry

Years ago Annie Dillard had an exquisite article in Harper’s Magazine. I remember her opening line was something to the effect of—“If, you stop to think about it there really are very many more dead people than alive.” There really are very many more dead people than alive… I read that and read it again and air just leaked out of my lungs. I remember, clearly, sitting up, looking around my living room, my then dog Annie was curled up under Susan’s chair and Susan was preparing a class at the dining room table. I remember thinking, what the hell am I doing? What am I doing that really matters? Given, that death is where we are all headed what am I doing here and now? With whom am I doing it?

Today’s Gospel, from Luke, is another scene in Jesus’ on-going fencing match with the Pharisees and Sadducees. Religious authorities who typically would have been content to spar with each other have for a variety of reasons joined together to tag team Jesus and hopefully, eventually take him down. Today’s absurd theological conundrum, right up there with what color wings might an angel wear were it to dance upon the head of a pin…” Concerns a woman who marries seven brothers each of whom precedes her in death. The question the Sadducees ask of Jesus is : in heaven whose wife is she? Now, in our context we might want to ask—what the heck is happening that every single one of her husbands is now dead….? Different times….

Jesus’ answer although also somewhat convoluted has a line in it that makes sense—that really stands out to me. Jesus says, quoting Moses, who quotes God, “I am the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, the God of the living for all of them are alive.” The God of the living…Jesus’ point being that those who have died are yet alive which is great news, but of more interest to me—is what does it mean to be the God of the living. What does it mean for us to be alive?

I officiated at a marriage yesterday evening. It was an opposite-sex marriage so it wasn’t one of the trendy ones—but it was sweet. It was good. Emily Rowe and David Wiegand. Some of you may know Emily. She’s an 11 o’clocker. Late twenties, been attending here for 4 years or so. Tall, long curly hair, she ushers regularly. She used to leads a cooking team once a month for our community kitchen and food pantry she is a leader at our All Saints’ Cafes. She is of this place. And what an honor to preside at her ceremony. Two folks in it for the long-haul—making huge promises come what may.

I have to say as I was doing the rehearsal on Friday night I did indeed find myself tearing up. It might have been the combination of singing: Charles Wesley’s: All Love Divine, All Love and Meatloaf’s, I can do anything for love…. Maybe that brought tears to my eyes or maybe it was the simple fact that now, in this state of ours and in this diocese of ours, in this church of ours I will soon be able to officiate at marriages: for opposite and same sex couples. Each equal. Each valid. Each pregnant with possibilities. I have to say it made me cry.

What does it mean to be in alive? What does it mean to be in relationship with the God of the living? It means to be in it for the long haul—come what may.

My last evening in Mexico we went out of the city and up into the hills to do an evening prayer service. It was cold for Xalapa—around 50 and windy and raining. We hopped in a borrowed car four of us, the other borrowed car had stools. I had the heavy backpack filled with the Spanish Book of Common Prayer books.

We drove for 25 minutes. Parked and walked up a paved street to a dirt street, to a dirt trail to a series of ruts that went up for about quarter mile or so. We went past, cows, chickens, and dogsUp we walked. I was happy I changed into sneakers. Up we went. As we neared the top of the hill Byron and the three other lay leaders—started knocking on the doors of the tiny rooms in which families live. “Come join us—we’ll be having evening prayer.” It being the end of the All Saints’ and All Souls day weekend it was a perfect time to gather and pray. Unlike the other times they had invited people to pray while I was visiting—this time only a handful of people joined us. Hace frio—it was cold.

We gathered on a mud ridge of sort—between the two rooms that are Juanita’s home. On one end is the room where she cooks—with a propane cylinder chained to a fence post. Clean laundry hung in effort to dry under the ubiquitous blue plastic tarp. Although the floor was cement, clods of red rich clay covered the floor. In contrast the other room—the room where she and her family slept—that floor was immaculate—I noticed each time she entered that room she left her shoes at the door and switched to pretty pink slippers.

Junanita, herself—looked a bit like many of you. She was taller than me—in Southern Mexico—it turns out that I’m tall. She was mid-forties, hair dyed light brown, she wore a dark knit sweater and a pair of dark brown pants with black flip flops. I was amazed at how incredibly clean she was—given that it was fiercely raining and there was mud everywhere. My sneakers were now red clay distributers their yellow color well South of orange and heading fast to brown. I’d been on the hill for 30 minutes and my clothes were a mess, she lives there and she was immaculate.

Juanita’s daughter and granddaughter were with her. We placed the plastic stools in a circle under the tarp and waited for others to arrive. Seven or so women and men and two little boys appeared. Out came a lovely wooden table, with a pressed immaculate doily upon it Juanita placed and a plastic 2 foot tall statue of the Blessed Virgin Mary. A candle was lit. The prayers began.

What caught me by surprise was opening the Spanish Book of Common Prayer and seeing in front of me signatures of people from All Saints’. Karen and David Howe, had bought the books, brought them to All Saints’ a bunch of us signed them and then the Howe’s shipped them down to Xalapa. Of course, I remembered all of that but that still didn’t stop me from initially being taken aback at seeing our signatures in such a foreign space. Two worlds colliding, overlapping, coming together and making a whole—two worlds of relationships, one to the other.

What matters? What is exceptional in our lives upon which we must focus? Upon which the God the living will share our concern? How then are we daring to connect? How are we vulnerable? Learning and Caring? How are we pushing ourselves, taking our souls beyond ourselves? How are we in long-term relationships? It is at the limits of our personal orbits that we will encounter the sacredness of our lives……push ourselves beyond that which makes us comfortable.

Long-term—that matters—long-term intimate relationships and connections of all types and sorts well that is Holy work. For it puts us in a spot where our souls can be broken open—caring. Where we encounter the mystery, the grief, the sorrow, the happiness, the joy and wonder—it is in those connections that we encounter the living God.


Copyright November 2013 Bonnie A. Perry

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Dear Friends,

Tomorrow afternoon I'll hit a milestone that astonishes me. I'm honored to be officiating at Kate Gannett and Jamison Merrill's wedding. Katie was one of the five or six little ones who were here at All Saints when I first arrived almost 25 years ago. She was five years old... Now she's working on a graduate degree at Johns Hopkins. She and Jamison met while working in South Africa.

So much has changed since then and yet this community of faith, although much bigger (and heaven knows our building looks much better), retains the same "let's just give this a try and see what happens" spirit. Back then we had Clyde Propst and a few dedicated church school teachers who were willing to give their time to be with our young people and let them know that they mattered. Today we still have Clyde Propst, and more than 10 other people, working with and serving our young ones. In addition, one of the little ones from back in the day, Hilary Waldron, now facilitates our incredibly active 7-12 grade youth group. Taking young people seriously can make a huge difference in their lives! I am so grateful to our nursery, church school teachers, and youth group advisors. Thank you for all that you do and give.

This weekend, in addition to Kate's wedding, I'll be getting my sermon ready for Sunday and anticipating our amazing end-of-the-church-school-ice-cream social. 

Colin and the choir will be creating some lovely music and Emily will be catching some time away after an incredibly packed Spring!

I look forward to seeing you all on Sunday!

All the best,


The last few Sundays of our church school year are quickly approaching:

Sunday, June 18th - The Annual Ice Cream Social when church school hosts coffee hour and what's better than ice cream! There will be a variety of ice cream flavors and many possible toppings for do-it-yourself Sundaes served on the lawn in front of the church. Children help with set up serve (and eating!) ice cream, and clearing away the debris

The rest of June and July - Although Sunday school classes do not meet at 10 during the summer, Atrium I will continue to be open during the 9 o'clock service until the end of July. Atrium I children who attend the 11 o'clock service will be welcome in the nursery during the service.

At 10 o'clock children are encouraged to come help water, weed and harvest vegetables from the garden we're planting to support the Ravenswood Services Community Kitchen.


redbirdUnderstanding Vocation in a Complex World

Parishioner Liz Futrell and her colleague Kate Rademacher both work in international public health with a focus on trying to increase access to contraception for women in developing countries. Both women feel a sense of vocation in this work. However, with birth control remaining a controversial topic in the political and religious landscapes, understanding this work as a vocational calling can raise challenging questions. Liz and Kate will talk about how their work intersects with their faith. Kate will read from her new memoir about her recent conversion to Christianity, and Liz will read from a piece about her career path that's been included in a new anthology of women's stories.

Discussion will take place Sunday, June 25, during coffee hour. There will be time for open discussion and the group will be invited to share their experiences and thoughts about discernment and understanding vocation.


revelationsMonday nights at 7:30, Beginning July 10

Bible study is back! If the current U.S. presidency and administration is causing you to wonder if we're living in "apocalyptic times," then studying the Book of Revelation is perfect for this summer's Bible study! The Monday nights for this, from 7:30 to 9 p.m. (6 to 7:15 p.m. for dinner beforehand at O'Shaughnessy's), are July 10, 17, 24 and 31.

Your "tour guide" on this journey will be parishioner Jerome Wilczynski. Jerome holds a Master's degree in Systematic Theology and New Testament from Catholic Theological Union, and a Doctoral degree in Clinical Psychology from the Illinois School of Professional Psychology. He is Associate Professor/Core Faculty in the department of Counselor Education and Supervision at Argosy University, Chicago. The point of our study will be to de-mystify this all too often misunderstood text from Scripture. The main commentary Jerome will use to assist us in unearthing the rich symbolism of this book will be Wilfrid Harrington's Revelation from the Sacra Pagina series, in case you want to buy it—but don't feel you have to.


Summer Lineup Selected
The All Saints Book Club met on May 11th and decided on a lineup of books for the next year. The book club is open to anyone who enjoys reading. The meetings start at 7:30 PM usually at the home of a member. The locations and further details are on our Facebook page
Here is the schedule for the next several months:
  • July 13 -  "The Warmth of Other Suns" by Isabel Wilkerson
  • August 10 - "Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil" by John Berendt
  • September 14 - "Operation Breadbasket" by Martin Deppe
  • For additional information, contact Mike Burke (


    Individual Actions Towards Racial Equality

    Volunteer Opportunities, Events, and Recommendations

    (re)imagining: Racial Justice Summit Sponsored by YWCA Evanston/North Shore:

    Thursday, April 6 from 6 - 8 pm
    Friday, April 7 from 9 am - 4 pm
    Unitarian Church of Evanston
    1330 Ridge Ave., Evanston, IL
    Goal: "To bring people of all ages and demographics together to deepen their understanding of their own racial identities, develop skills to work for change, formulate action plans and engage with others."

    For Information and Registration, click here

    "The Scottsboro Boys" at Porchlight Theater through March 12th
    A musical production that is getting rave reviews, "nominated for 12 Tony Awards, and presented in the style of the notorious "minstrel show", this true-life story of nine African American teenagers accused and put on trial in Memphis for a crime they did not commit is one America's most notorious episodes of injustice; inaugurating a wave of social changes leading up to the modern Civil Rights Movement."

    For information and ticket prices, click here

    Suggested reading, non-fiction: 
    Tears We Cannot Stop: A Sermon to White America by Michael Eric Dyson, January, 2017

    This book has been described as "...a provocative and deeply personal call for change. Dyson argues that if we are to make real racial progress we must face difficult truths, including being honest about how black grievance has been ignored, dismissed, or discounted."

    Recommended as a "companion piece to the film rather than a stand-alone book." One reviewer recommended "seeing the film first, and then using the book for meditation and revisiting afterward."

    Volunteer opportunity: GROWING HOME "We have a vision of a world of healthy people and communities. Everyone deserves to have a good job, and everyone deserves to eat well." Since 2002, Growing Home has trained and employed and, most importantly, given a second chance to people with employment barriers. You may be familiar with their Wood Street farm in Englewood. Their farms are the first and only USDA-certified organic high-production urban farms in Chicago, and because they strive to also feed their community well, all their produce is grown, harvested, cleaned, and sold within a 20-mile radius. Read more at

    Volunteer opportunity: Non-profit Reading In Motion has successfully refined its mission over its 30+ years to help give kindergarten and first grade students foundational reading skills they need to start on a path for lifetime learning. They partner with public school teachers and have been extremely successful in making a difference in children's lives. Click here for more info.


    We're running low on paper and reusable bags for our Tuesday night pantry. Please bring us your extras! 
    We will be taking donations on Tuesday evenings, M-F 9am-4pm, and on Sundays during church services. Look for the bins by the doors. Thanks for your help!

     Sundays at 2pm

    breakersbibleWe are very excited to announce that every Sunday at 2:00 pm, All Saints' offers something new at the Breakers - An Evening Prayer Service! Our first event was Sunday, December 4th, and went marvelously well - we had 13 attendees! Folks are very pleased that there's a Protestant service being offered in addition to the current choices (which are Catholic and Moody Bible.) The Prayer Service itself is printed in large print and in bulletin style with scripture taken each week from the Common Lectionary.

    The weekly service starts at 2:00 pm, upstairs on the second floor Meditation Room, and lasts about 15 minutes. Please contact Paul Mallatt if you have questions, or comments at 773-860-4649. When you can, stop by the Breakers (5333 N Sheridan Rd) where the parking is free (for 2 hours), the coffee is hot, and the folks are friendly!


    Jeff Lee
    Dear Polly and All Saint's Kids,
    I am writing to you from a meeting of the board of Episcopal Relief & Development in Bogota, Columbia. We are meeting here to visit some of our partner ministries with people in need. I have seen the amazing results of this year's bake sale (in fact, I'm looking at photos of some of the cakes - wow!), and you have reminded me that we don't have to travel to Columbia or South Sudan to make a huge impact for the good of God's people.
    I am so proud and grateful for you and the work you do. You guys are heroes. Our friends in South Sudan will be blessed by your effort.
    In Christ,
    Jeffrey D. Lee
    Bishop of Chicago

    Sundays at 10am

    The phrase Imago Dei means the Image of God. Specifically, the image of God as it is found in humanity. The image of God in us - it is what makes us spiritual people - valued as whole and complete. What does it mean to creatively live as whole people? How do we live in relationship with others - respecting and sharing one another's security and one another's discomfort?

    Join us on Sunday mornings between services as we figure out together how to help one another take practical responsibility for living in this world - especially as racial and spiritual beings.

    True - our time will be uncomfortable because it will mean talking about race, violence, personal helplessness, and personal failure. Also true - this will be comforting and supportive because it will mean getting to be honest, practicing together, and caring for one another.

    Every week we will ask one another "What have you done in these past 7 days with who you are and within your sphere of influence when it comes to the realities of race?" the answers will be different for each person and it won't be a competition. We will be lifting up the everyday choices we make and don't make. Sometimes we will like what happens and sometimes we won't.

    And - we will be doing it together.

    The Middle Eastern refugees and immigrants served by the Iraqi Mutual Aid Society were deeply moved by the notes of welcome from All Saints. We shared them at our community lunch on Thursday, and now they will hang in our conference room to remind people of your warm welcome in the days to come. Thanks!

    Laura Youngberg

    breadbakersSignup online to bake for a month

    Calling all bakers! If you love the smell of fresh-baked bread filling your kitchen, please consider signing up to bake communion bread for our services. This involves a one-month commitment that you'll share with another baker, and you can do all your baking at once and add to the reserves in our freezer.

    Signing up is easy, just click here for our page on Signup Genius and reserve your favorite month.

    Contact Jennifer Simokaitis, or Anne Ellis if you have any questions.

    Yard Signs Available 

    Grow Community has created yard signs for anyone who would like to display support for our local public high schools. Signs and sign holders are available in the Reading Room.



    Tuesdays 6:15-8:00pm 


    RCS is looking for help serving and cleaning up after dinner on Tuesdays from 6:15-8:00pm.
    If you're able to volunteer, contact Emily or Operations Manager Parker Callahan, or call 773-769-0282.


    helloDo you feel called to create an open, welcoming, hospitable environment at All Saints? Do you like meeting and connecting with people? Join the new Hospitality Ministry! Members of the Hospitality Ministry will help the clergy and vestry create a welcoming culture by greeting new members, engaging new faces at coffee hour, and helping connect new members of All Saints with our various programs.

    Interested? Contact Diane Doran or Michelle Mayes. Include "Hospitality Ministry" in the subject line.

    Our new Associate Rector, Emily Williams Guffey, is enjoying getting to know everyone in our congregation. Help her put names and faces together by adding yourself to our online directory!

    If you are a member of All Saints' and haven't already registered for the directory, please contact our resident web guru Jim Crandall at and he will send a user name, password, and instructions.

    Join the All Saints' Care Ministry! 

    casseroleThe Care Ministry at All Saints' is a quiet one, simply providing meals after a new baby arrives, after surgery, during an illness. Because when life gets complicated, dinner is often the last thing on our minds--but sometimes a meal and visit from a friend is exactly what we need!

    If you can provide a meal, give someone a ride, or run an errand once in awhile, please email You'll be contacted when a need arises and you can sign up to help at your convenience.


    tinaParishioner, Tina Tchen, accepts Bishop Maryann Budde's invitation to preach at the National Cathedral Sunday, May 8. Click here to see the video.


    Please consider supporting the restoration project of our historic building. To make a donation, click here

    1883 Construction web 

    This week’s stories of the bell tower: The beams and posts in the bell tower are being filled with epoxy and fungicide to prevent future insect damage and to restore their strength and integrity. Here are some photos of the work currently taking place. Everywhere you see white is where the post or beam is being rebuilt, restored and protected.
    The blue hue in the photo is from the tarp surrounding the bell tower enabling Ron Young and his crew to continue working in the dropping temperatures.

    Here is a collection of photos of the progress of our 1883 Project. Here is a collection of bell tower photos. Check back often for updates.

    Sunday Service Times

    8:00 am Inclusive Language Eucharist
    9:00 am Holy Eucharist with Choir
    10:00 am Children's Church School
    10:00 am Coffee Hour
    11:00 am Holy Eucharist with Choir


    Contact Us

    4550 N. Hermitage in Chicago, IL 60640 (Directions)

    Phone (773) 561-0111


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    Bonnie on Huffington Post

    Occasionally Bonnie's sermons are published on the Huffington Post. Here are some links.

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    October 4, 2015

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    Christmas Reminds Us That We, Like God, Are Human, Too

    December 24, 2014

    The Deep Sleep of Racial Oblivion: One Pastor's Sin of Omission

    November 30, 2014

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    Going Home—Changed

    Pulpit Swap Sermon By The Rev Bonnie Perry of All Saints Episcopal Church on October 16, 2016.  

    When Prayers Go Unanswered

    Pulpit Swap Sermon By The Rev Dr Fulton L Porter celebrating at All Saints Episcopal Church on Oct16 2016.